Something is paying the bills

Something is paying the bills

Posted on: August 20, 2013

The Sun-Herald’s magazine insert Sunday Life a couple of weeks back ran an interview with a working girl that was completely matter-of-fact.  She is 40, with kids.. Her husband walked out on her after 15 years of marriage, and when she did her sums, she discovered that after the mortgage and the bills there would be no money for food, and placed an ad on a web-site giving her age, 40, the size of her tits, DD and offering “full service.”

She got a call straight away. She describes how nervous she was, how she fished out the appropriate lingerie from the back of a drawer, chose her clothes to show off her DD dimensions, showered, moisturised all over and drove to the hotel with her stomach churning.

He was a nice man, about 50, and though he paid for two hours she stayed for three. Sex took 45 minutes and the rest of the time was spent lying in bed and talking.

She sees up to four clients a day and makes between $800 and $1200.  It’s the perfect work and family balance, she says.

At no point in a full page article, of which “Melanie” herself appears to be the author, is there a moral judgement.

That’s not the case with the account by Sister Jane Frances de Chantal, who entered a Franciscan convent at 18 and left two years later, got married and moved from Britain to the US. It took until her 40s before she realised just how much her Catholic upbringing and her experience as a nun had damaged her sexual instincts.

Sister Jane is now Dr Fran Fisher, a sexologist. Her book comprises interviews with 28 women who also took vows of poverty, chastity and obedience, but then left orders. Some had had relationships with other nuns, some with priests, and some with lay people. One had intercourse for the first time at 52 and another at 50. She and her partner did it every night for two or three months. He thought she was an amazon. “I’ve waited 50 years for this, so just lie back and shut up,” she told him.

Fisher is fiercely critical of the Catholic system that allows naïve young women to uproot themselves from their families to enter a convent. It was wrong, and it is still going on, she says. There is a huge toll down the line, she says. The Church shouldn’t allow it to happen,